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The Modesty Survey!



For a while now, many people (including myself) have been excitedly awaiting the results of The Rebelution’s Modesty Survey. Well, the wait is over. Today, this survey has been released. You now have access to the answers of over 1,600 Christian guys to every question on modesty that you can think of!

The Rebelution presents the results of the survey as a big St. Valentine’s Day gift from 1,600 Christian guys to all Christian girls—and I can’t think of a better one!

Go check it out!

And spread the word!

Guys, they are still accepting signatures for the Modesty Survey Petition, so this is an opportunity for you to still share your voice on the topic of modesty! And girls, please be sure and read the petition to get a better understanding of the purpose of this survey and all that it entails. May the Lord richly bless your Valentine’s Day. All glory be to Him.




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“I Do It For You”

“They call me legalistic- “She’s gone too far”
But can I go too far in saving
My body for you?
I do it for you, my darling- I do it for you.


They say it’s unnecessary- “Who really cares?”
But lust is a very real struggle.
I’ll do it for my brothers-
I hope that my sisters will do it for you.
I will help you pursue purity, my dear- I do it for you.


Images of beauty, seductive fashions
They attract me-it would all be so easy
To give in.
Sometimes, I don’t want to stand out.
But I’ll choose the hard route for you, beloved- I do it for you.


They think I do it because I like to;
But how tempting the scanty clothes can look!
I want to look stunning, too!
But I’ll wait for you, my husband- I do it for you.


My King-
You have called me to honor You
My body has been bought with a price-
Your precious blood
So I will do it for you, Lord Jesus- I ultimately do it for you.”



This poem sums up a lot of what I feel about modesty. Poetry is not my forte, but this has been on my heart for some time.

If you have a hard time with dressing modestly, if there are times you feel frustrated and ready to give up, you are not alone! Please do not give up. It does matter to Christian guys. It matters to your future husband. And mostly, it matters to Christ. We are to be set-apart, not chasing after the vain things of this world. So, I want to encourage you to continue to pursue modesty in dress and actions. It is truly worth it!

May the Lord grant us strength, humility, and wisdom as we pursue the “hard route” for Him. And may we realize that we are fully depenedent on His grace in this area, and in all areas of life!

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Superman and Kryptonite

Superman and Kryptonite

Most people know of kryptonite, even if they have never seen a Superman movie or comic strip. Kryptonite is the glowing green stone that causes Superman to lose his power. It causes his efforts to be more or less in vain, and it allows him to be harmed. Superman is a strong leader; he strives to promote nobility and peace and the good of all mankind (supposedly).
Now, ladies, I want you to imagine for a moment that you are in a terrible predicament. An evil creature is out to take over and destroy the world. He breaks the tracks of a train. In a second, the train will fly off the tracks, killing many, many people. However, you could possibly stop the train. You run in front of it and push the opposite way. But your efforts are in vain, and you are being taken away with the train. People on the train are screaming, desperately. “Help,” you cry. And in an instant (with some superhero music playing in the background) Superman shows up. He can stop the train.

Would you let him stop the train? Would you allow him to help you, knowing that you cannot do it alone and save the lives of all those people?
Or would you hold up Kryptonite and weaken Superman’s power? Would you take the green stone and press it against Superman as he attempts to stop the runaway train?
Of course not! Anyone in her right mind would let Superman help her stop the train!
However, I am going to take a leap and say that we, as girls, may do this to our brothers in Christ.

A Common Goal
God made woman to help man and man to lead woman. Let’s face it; men have strengths that we do not possess, and we have strengths that they do not possess. At the same time, men have weaknesses that we do not have, and we have weaknesses that they do not have.

All true Christians are on a journey. Our goal is to glorify God; our end is Heaven where we can be with Him and truly enjoy Him forever. We are fighting a battle against Satan, the Prince of Darkness. Through various means, Satan is trying to get us off the path. He wants us for himself, so that he might devour us.

Christ has already won the war. Through His death on the Cross, He conquered all; we are victorious against Satan overall. But we must still fight battles. As a community of faith, Christians are battling together. Ladies, you are fighting with your brothers (though in different ways) for the kingdom and glory of God.
It is preposterous to think that we would want to hurt our brothers as they fight for this noble goal. Why would we start attacking our own fellow soldiers!?

But we do. Our immodest clothes hurt guys, causing them to lust. Lust is sin; Jesus says that lust is the same as committing adultery: “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28 ) Do you want to be responsible for causing a man to be unfaithful to his wife (or future wife) by committing adultery in his heart with you?

Holding Up Kryptonite
When we dress in a way that is revealing and provocative, we are holding up “kryptonite” to our brothers who are fighting as “supermen” (by the strength and grace of Christ) against darkness. Do we realize the impact our immodest clothing has on our brothers. Realizing their weaknesses, we should lovingly seek to keep them from stumbling by the way that we dress.

I encourage you to think about this analogy between Superman and Kryptonite and men of God and immodest women. It’s not perfect, but I think it can help us understand the effect of our clothing on our brothers.

A Heart Issue
If you want to explore this issue more, I encourage you to check out Girl Talk’s posts on modesty.
Also, I encourage you to read this post on The Rebelution. It is a link to another post (which you should also read). There are posts by guys at the bottom. I think it is encouraging to know that modesty is a very real struggle for guys, and they do appreciate girls who dress modestly.
It’s true; we do have an amazing amount of power over guys through the way we dress. We have the power to harm, or the power to enourage men in the role that God has called them to.

Modesty is much more than a dress issue, it’s a heart issue.
Click here for a modesty heart check booklet written by Mrs. Mahaney and her three daughters. One of my favorite things about the Girl Talk blog is that they present things with such humility and understand the struggle to dress in a way that pleases God. This little booklet makes the issue of modesty more practical and applicable. I encourage you to read it. You may want to print it out and put it on your mirror or on your closet door.

Remember, as with all sin, the root of modesty is pride and selfishness. It comes from a desire to be accepted, loved, sought after. John Piper writes: “God loves us by liberating us from bondage of self so that we can enjoy knowing and admiring him forever”. So, just like Eve eating the forbidden fruit, wearing immodest clothing comes from a desire to be glorified and “the most important”. In reality, God is the most important, and God alone deserves glory (Psalm 115:1, Isaiah 43:6-7). God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to free us from our addiction to ourselves. He gives us the strength that we need to follow Him and be free from ourselves (Philippians 4:13). So ask God to create a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within you (Psalm 51:10).

When it comes to modesty, consider being held accountable by a godly older woman and friends who desire to be modest.
Please prayerfully evaluate the clothes in your closet. Remove what is immodest, and seek to dress modestly all the time. Considering thoroughly what we wear is not legalistic- it is loving. We were created to help, not harm!

“Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean. For if your brother is grieved by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. By what you eat, do not destroy the one for whom Christ died.” Romans 14:13-15

Let us not let what we wear destroy the ones for whom Christ died!

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