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Being a daughter who fears the Lord does not depend upon having Christian (or non-Christian) parents. We are to follow Christ wherever He places us. This looks different for each of us. In this post, I’m going to share a little about His ongoing work in my life in this particular area.

My Story

Although my mom is a Christian, my dad is not. And there are many things that follow from this. For example, though I’m thankful that he is my father, my dad doesn’t have the same sense of morals that he would if he were following the Lord. He makes choices that I don’t agree with, and there are things that are particularly challenging about that. But this isn’t going to be a post about the challenges I face. We all face challenges. Instead, this is about what the Lord is teaching me in His mercy.

Sufficient Grace

First, I’m learning to rely upon the Lord’s grace more each day. I feel as though my dad is always watching me. My dad is a very critical, skeptical, person. There are so many times that I feel like a complete failure- I don’t always glorify God in my relationship with my dad. I grow bitter at different things he is doing, and it makes it hard to love him well. I hate that I cannot perfectly reflect my Savior. This has caused me more and more to stop relying on my own futile efforts and lean upon the grace of God to help me fulfill the roles He has given me. I truly am nothing. God doesn’t need me; instead, He graciously allows me to participate in His plans. I’m learning that He can save my dad with or without me. I’m learning not to dwell on my mistakes, but to repent of them, to ask for His help in turning away, and to move on. It’s hard. I feel as though I am always on display. And I fail entirely at mirroring Christ when I rely upon my own strength and think too highly of myself and my role. I must cling to the Cross, relying upon His Spirit in me. This has caused me also to dig deeper into His Word and be more constant in prayer because I’m not self-sufficient, though I often live as though I think I am. As Paul wrote, “But [the Lord] said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Corinthians 12: 9-10). Great is His faithfulness!

Trusting, Hoping, Praying

Second, I’m learning to trust the Lord. He is sovereign over all, including my dad’s life. I’m learning to pray faithfully for my dad’s salvation, as well as for my mom, sister and I to be reflections of Christ to my dad and brother. I worry a lot. But God is teaching me to cast that on Him. He is gracious in giving me faith and trust- forgiving my doubts, helping my unbelief.

God Doesn’t Make Mistakes

Third, I’m learning that God has placed me in my home, and in that is my most important role right now. I am to rejoice in my role as a sister and daughter, cheerfully obeying, continually trusting the Lord.

Hating the Sin, Loving the Sinner

Fourth (and the last thing I’ll mention now), I’m learning to be gentle and patient with my dad, not holding him up to the same standard as I do myself and other followers of Christ. I must rely on God in this area, too, asking Him for wisdom to know how I should react to Dad’s sin. This is a particularly difficult area for me right now, but God is faithful. Most importantly, He is teaching me to keep on loving my dad and serving him, as Christ does for us all.

Other Lessons

The Lord is using my home life to teach me in ways I never thought possible, as He does with all challenges He graciously allows in our lives. Though I still struggle with feelings of worthlessness, bitterness, and worry, God is teaching me to give those feelings up to Him. Through my home, God has also given me renewed understanding for those who haven’t grown up in the church with a godly mother and father. It has further encouraged me to pray for Christians in non-Christian or anti-Christian homes. The Lord gives me strength to keep on serving, as well as grace and forgiveness to come to Him when I fail. I don’t know the end to this story, but I do know it will glorify God. And in that I will rejoice.

In I Corinthians 7, after talking to the Corinthians about marriage and living with an unbelieving spouse, Paul writes,

“Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches.” (vs. 17).

God has given each of us different blessings, responsibilities, and roles. Life looks different for each follower of Christ. But we are all to be following Christ in our different lives. And He is faithful to supply us with the grace that we need to serve Him wherever He places us. Praise the Lord for where He has placed you! In part, I wrote this post because I’ve been struggling with discouragement- even envy- lately because of my home situation. God is teaching me to rely upon Him, trust Him, and rejoice in Him as I cheerfully obey Him. Live the life He has called you to- joyfully, hopefully, prayerfully!

Also, I would really appreciate prayer for my dad’s and brother’s salvation, as well as prayer for myself and the rest of my family members. Thank you so much! Thanks for bearing with me through this long and jumbled post!


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As this series begins, I want to encourage you and remind you of the influence you have in the home as a daughter who fears and loves the Lord.

Daughters have a way of sweetening the life of a home that comes from their God-given desire to be helpers. One of the gifts that God has given to woman is the ability to nurture and beautify. It is honestly amazing to see the effect the wife and mother has on the home, for good or for evil. “A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to retrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” (Proverbs 27:15). And while daughters do not have quite the same effect on the air of the home as the mother, daughters do have an important effect. Have you ever noticed your power to cheer and comfort, or maybe to harm? I know that my hasty, irritable words can stir up contention in our home. However, my uplifting words, stemming from a heart that is in love with Christ, can comfort and encourage other family members and cheer the life of our home.

A quick thought about emotions: though emotions are important, I think it is essential to keep moodiness from ruling your role as a daughter. We must not take stress, anger, or frustration out on others. As girls, it’s so easy to let our moods dictate how we act, but we must learn to live by love the love of Christ. The basis for all is a growing relationship with the Lord. Focus your heart on Him and let your whole self be captive to Him. Then can you truly love and obey Him, taking up your cross daily to serve and love others.

In a home, every family member is important in determining what the home will be like. However, God can greatly use a daughter who is devoted to serving Him to change the home dramatically for His glory. I encourage you to read this post again (particularly the quote by Mabel Hale). Never forget the influence you have as a woman who loves the Lord. It is a great privilege and a great responsibility- one that you must rely on God’s grace and provision to accomplish.

“Let love be genunine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Romans 12:9-12

Sadly, I see in many churches (and often even in my own life) a lack of honor and love in the home. Our culture views the house as the place where we relax, unwind, and live for ourselves. However, homes are one of the greatest opportunities for ministry, and God esteems the family and home. Do we do the same? Do we seek to honor others above ourselves in the home or only when in public?


Now, I want to hear your ideas and stories. How do you keep your attitude sweet and loving? What are some things (either simple or complex) that you do to show honor and love to other family member? (You are welcome to answer these questions in your comment, or you can comment on something else!)

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A Daughter Who Fears the Lord
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

I’m sure you’ve read the account of the godly woman in Proverbs 31. She is a portrait of a woman who is following the Lord. This is the central aspect of her being, and it controls everything she is and does, including the way she uses her time, what comes out of her mouth, and what she buys. I think it’s safe to say that the woman talked of in Proverbs 31 did not become who she is overnight (and since she’s human, she is most definitely not perfect). Most likely, her training began as a young girl in her father’s house. She probably started off as a daughter and maybe as a sister, too.

In this series, I am going to talk about issues that pertain to being a daughter who fears the Lord. The central aspect is Christlikeness. The topics won’t be in a recognizable order, but they will be from Scripture and things that the Lord is teaching me. I hope that this series will encourage you and strengthen you as you grow in Christlikeness and as you serve Him in your role as a daughter (and really, wherever you are). It’s going to be highly practical at times, and often quite specific. But mainly, it should serve as a reminder and encouragement to you. It will find its basis in Scripture.

Before we begin, I want to make a couple of things clear.

First, as I have emphasized before on this blog, I am a sinner, but I am a redeemed sinner- a work in progress. I am far from perfect, but God, in His grace, has begun the sanctification process in me to grow me into the likeness of His Son and our Savior, Jesus Christ. I still must constantly lean upon His grace and forgiveness, as I fail often. So, when I write this, I am writing based on the standards of Scripture- not what I have attained, but what I hope to attain by the grace of God. Realize that our sanctification is by the grace of God alone and will not be completed on this side of Heaven. In a similar vein, I am no expert in this subject, which brings us to the second point.

Secondly, realize that I am indebted to many godly men and women as I work on this series. I will link to their posts, give you quotes from their writings, and reference them quite often. God has used numerous others to shape my life, and I am certain that He will continue to do so. In light of this, I want this series to provoke discussion. If you have anything to add to whatever I’ve written (whether a testimony, Bible verse, quote– anything!) feel free to email me (createdtobeahelp@gmail.com) or post a comment. I pray that we will encourage one another during this series. I dearly hope to learn from your insights, accomplishments, even mistakes, as I hope you will learn from mine.

May the Lord use my humble writings to His glory, and may He work through me to encourage you, as so many have encouraged me in my walk of faith!

Your sister in Christ,

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